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Compassion fatigue



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Published Date:
21 April 2008
Almost a year ago, when Madeleine McCann went missing, I was genuinely saddened by her disappearance.
But now I'm not.

That sounds heartless doesn't it? I don't mean it to, because nothing should detract from the fact that a child went missing, and had it been my child, or someone I knew, I would still be heartbroken 12 months later.

When I studied the sociology of news at university (I know, I could have been finding a cure for cancer, but unfortunately my brain was geared to more Mickey Mouse matters), a phrase that was bandied about was "compassion fatigue".

Briefly, this is what happens when the national media cover an event to such an extent as to saturate the news with it, until the point where the average person is so bored by the coverage of it that they become apathetic.

I think it came to a head for me when I was working in Essex, and several bored housewives decided they would mark the 100th day since Madeleine went missing with the release of 100 balloons on a school playing field.

I think my first question was, well, why?

And the chief bored housewife organiser did not have an answer.

Okay she did. Her answer was: "To raise awareness."

This was at a point where, even three months after her disappearance, she was still in the press. Awareness? In Braintree? Why?

It was sad then, and it still is now, but I can't bring myself to feel any grief for one particular missing child.

I guess I'm partly to blame for covering these unnecessary awareness-raising events, when it's got to a point now where a family's grief should remain private.

I think the time has come now when the whole issue should be (excuse the turn of phrase) put to bed.

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Excuse Me?,

Scotland 21/04/2008 10:44:15
I am very saddened to see that you feel that the whole issue of Madeleine McCann's disappearance should be (excuse the turn of phrase) "put to bed". And no, I will not excuse your turn of phrase. In very bad taste, but that's journalists for you!

I would like to point out that I have given up loads of my time and energy trying to help in some small way to find Madeleine. I am not alone in that and we are not all "bored housewives", I can assure you. That comment is extremely insulting to people who have not only tried to find Madeleine but many other children who have gone missing. It would be interesting to know just how many organisations you know who try to find these vunerable, and often exploited children.

One thing that Madeleine's case has done has raised awareness of all missing children. Is that not one good outcome that has come out of this very tragic and heartbreaking case. I ask you instead of slagging off people who have tried to raise awareness of these issues rather you help advertise the fact that many children are sadly missing and need our help.

You may be interested in some of of these sites unless you have lost all compassion. They make awaken your apathy.

http://www.missingkids.com/
http://www.crop1.org.uk/
http://www.missingpeople.org.uk/
http://www.ceop.gov.uk/


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H4A,

SA 21/04/2008 11:09:00
I cannot believe that someone can be so heartless. You clearly do not have children of your own! How could you possibly even consider that Madeleine McCann's disappearance be "put to bed". A child is still missing! In fact there are thousands of children still missing. You have the courage to submit such an article, do you have the courage to face Madeleine's parents and say this to them?
I am by no means a bored housewife. In fact quite the opposite. I am one of those people that follow this story and many others very closely. There are many of us that help where we can and still work full day jobs and have families. Not only have you insulted us but all missing children around the world!
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catskins,

21/04/2008 11:21:12
Are you seeking self publicity ?......If not I am so glad that I will never have to depend on you for help.....
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sandiman,

Essex 21/04/2008 12:06:07
Shame on you.
With such comments and apathy is it any wonder that children still go missing and the guilty ones think they can get away with it.
Shame on you, this is a missing child you are talking about who may be going through goodness knows what horrors and you want to "put it to bed"?
I hope you never have a child of your own go missing and have to think back on your words of today.
Shame on you.
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Tessa G,

Essex 21/04/2008 12:31:34
This piece is written by someone who is seriously lacking in compassion and feels rather superior to people who do actually give a damm. Perhaps a few more years experience in real life will enlighten her. Should hang her head in shame, writing about experiences she knows nothing about and cares less.
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Mrs Not Average,

Lancs 21/04/2008 12:40:12
Thank God there are a hell of a lot of 'un-average' people out there who seem to have an immunity to this trendy new bug, Compassion Fatigue.

And this does not mean they are merely bored houswives who have nothing better to do with their time. Perhaps you feel a tinge of embarrassment at your own apathy and lack of compassion. Chief bored housewife or tired, boring journalist - I know which one I'd rather be.

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C4M,

Yorks 21/04/2008 13:04:33
How can you be so inconsiderate about the feelings of a missing girls parents

I do voluntary work for foreversearching.com for Madeleine and many other missing children ... I released balloons for Madeleine ... I have ribbons in my car, bands on my wrists and posters in my office ... thats right office (60+ hours a week does not make me a bored housewife)

Madeleine is a missing little girl, stolen from her bed in a foreign land, in a country that refuses to believe it has a peado problem and with the media slating her parents and every verse end and turn

If you cannot show them compassion, then you have no heart and certainly no children as a mother would not have made such a statement
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LGee,

East Anglia 21/04/2008 13:36:05
I don' think it is your decision Julia Taylor to put this case to bed.
I guess there all kinds of fatigue in life though - mine is fatigue of compassion lacking media types.
It doesn't mean you have to walk around with a heavy heart obsessing about a missing child to care y'know. It is still there in many of our minds that Madeleine and many other children are missing - I too am a member of www.foreversearching.com and we put our compassion to good use.
Only positive steps will make changes - writing a negative dull article serves no purpose.
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crys,

essex 21/04/2008 15:06:31
what a sad little person you are - i dont think you have any right to say this child's plight should be "put to bed" this poor little girl, like so many other children out there, is lost and she needs to be found, her parents and family need to know what has happenned to her. do you think that ben needhams parents shouldnt have bothered getting computer generated photos done of how their child could look today? do you think that andrew gosden's mother should just give up looking for her son? should rui pedro mendoncas mum just "get over" the fact that her son was kidnapped and the last photo she ever saw of him was of him being abused by a peado ring? no and you know why - because these familiies need justice for their children and they need to know what happenned.

i bet you dont even know who these children are do you? perhaps you should google their names and find out what has happened to these kids and maybe you might feel a glimmer of what us "housewives" feel when we are donig our small bit to raise the awareness of missing children.

If every person in the world had your attitude then children would not be found. its us "housewives" that try to do our bit to make a difference. but dont worry julia, god forbid anything happenned to anyone in your family, please do not contact any of our forums, websites and organisations as we wil only tell you to get over it and "put it to bed"

this is exactly the reason why you did not go to university and find a cure for cancer, becasue your obviously so self centered and quite frankly not made to want to do something for someone else.

just to let you know, on 3rd may, i will be letting balloons go in madeleines name and i will let one go for you too, in the hope that you find some compassion and empathy in your tiny little selfish life.
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bart simpson,

21/04/2008 16:25:27
Julia, We believe that compassion fatigue is a syndrome of the shallow person, who has become anaesthetised by power and fame. Perhaps you need to hang out with some folk who have empathy, as your old cronies are obviously draining you!
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